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  • Mentorship in EMS: Lessons from My Relationship with Ron Morin

    Mentorship in EMS: Lessons from My Relationship with Ron Morin

    Mentorship is a cornerstone of growth in any field, but in Emergency Medical Services (EMS), where the stakes are high and the learning curve is steep, it can be transformative. For me, mentorship came in the form of Ron Morin—a pioneer in Maine EMS whose career spanned over four decades, starting with the state’s very first paramedic program. His passion for the field didn’t stop with patient care; it extended to ambulance design, regional sales, education, and advocacy. But our story didn’t begin in the thick of his career. It started after Ron and his wife Becky, a paramedic and nurse practitioner, had retired—a time when I was just starting my journey as an EMT.

    At the time, I was still figuring out my path in healthcare and emergency medicine. Meeting Ron and Becky couldn’t have come at a better time. Their thoughtful guidance, experience, and unwavering encouragement became a steadying force in my life. As our relationship grew, so did the depth of their impact on me. Today, I’m proud to call them my chosen grandparents—a title they’ve earned through years of offering love, support, and wisdom.

    A New Chapter: Touring and Writing with Ron

    One of the most rewarding aspects of my mentorship with Ron has been our work together on the Squad 51 History and Education Project, his nonprofit educational initiative. Touring the Northeast with Ron, we’ve worked to inspire new generations of EMS professionals and connect with seasoned veterans who grew up watching the iconic show Emergency! These trips have been more than just professional opportunities—they’ve been lessons in history, community, and the evolution of EMS.

    In 2023, our collaboration deepened when I began working on Ron’s autobiography. As I transcribed his stories, I gained insight into the origins of 911 services in rural Maine, the challenges faced by early paramedics, and the profound dedication it takes to build a system that saves lives. Beyond his professional journey, I’ve learned about the enduring love and partnership he shares with Becky, the resilience they’ve shown through life’s challenges, and their tireless commitment to the EMS community.

    What Ron Taught Me About Mentorship

    Ron’s mentorship has been a masterclass in patience, perspective, and humility. He’s taught me that no matter how advanced our tools or protocols become, EMS is ultimately about people—about their stories, struggles, and triumphs. His advice has helped me become not just a better EMT, but a more compassionate and grounded healthcare provider.

    One of the most profound lessons I’ve learned is the importance of listening—really listening. Whether it’s a patient in crisis, a colleague in need of support, or the wisdom of someone who’s been in the field for decades, listening creates the space for growth and connection.

    It’s also because of Ron and Becky’s encouragement that I found the courage to start this blog, Mind Over Mayday. Sharing my story and advocating for first responder mental health wouldn’t have been possible without their belief in me.

    Why You Should Seek a Mentor in EMS

    Mentorship in EMS isn’t just about passing down technical knowledge; it’s about building relationships that challenge, support, and inspire. Here are a few reasons why finding a mentor could change your career—and your life:

    1. Perspective: Mentors like Ron bring a wealth of experience that helps put the challenges of the job into context. Their stories remind us why we chose this field in the first place.

    2. Guidance: A mentor can help you navigate career decisions, refine your skills, and avoid common pitfalls.

    3. Support: The demands of EMS can be overwhelming, but having someone who understands the unique stressors of the job can make all the difference.

    4. Connection to the Past: Learning from those who’ve shaped the field connects us to its history and inspires us to contribute to its future.

    Honoring the “Dinosaurs” of EMS

    Too often, the wisdom of EMS veterans is overlooked in a field that’s constantly evolving. But the so-called “dinosaurs” of EMS have a depth of knowledge and perspective that no textbook or protocol manual can provide. Their stories are a reminder of how far we’ve come—and how much we still have to learn.

    For me, Ron and Becky have been that bridge between the past and the future, showing me what it means to dedicate your life to a calling. Their mentorship has shaped my career and my perspective, and I’ll forever be grateful for the lessons they’ve taught me.

    So, if you’re new to EMS—or even if you’re not—find a mentor. Seek out someone who inspires you, challenges you, and helps you grow. And when the time comes, pass that knowledge along. Because mentorship isn’t just about becoming better at what you do; it’s about ensuring the next generation is even stronger.

    To Ron and Becky—thank you for everything. Your impact on my life and my career is immeasurable, and I hope to honor it by continuing to learn, grow, and give back.

  • Vicarious Resilience: Finding Strength Through Stories of Survival

    Vicarious Resilience: Finding Strength Through Stories of Survival

    As first responders, we are often exposed to some of the most challenging moments in people’s lives. The emergencies we encounter can weigh heavily on us, leaving behind an emotional residue that is difficult to process. Yet, amidst the chaos and heartbreak, there is a profound gift: the ability to witness resilience.

    Vicarious resilience, a concept born from the field of trauma therapy, refers to the strength and healing we gain by observing others overcome adversity. For first responders, this can take many forms—watching a patient fight for their life and recover, seeing families come together during crises, or learning from colleagues who persevere despite the hardships of the job. These stories serve as powerful reminders of human strength, giving us the hope and courage to continue showing up, no matter how difficult the day may be.

    The Transformative Power of Resilience

    Each shift presents us with moments where resilience is on full display. It could be a child smiling through pain, a survivor expressing gratitude, or a colleague standing tall after enduring unimaginable challenges. These experiences are not just fleeting snapshots—they have the potential to inspire personal growth, foster empathy, and build a sense of purpose.

    Vicarious resilience is a vital antidote to the emotional toll of our work. It shifts the narrative from despair to hope, reminding us that even in the darkest moments, there is light. When we allow ourselves to absorb these stories, they can become tools for our own healing.

    Introducing: Stories of Strength—A New Interview Series

    To further explore the impact of resilience in the first responder community, I’m excited to announce a new blog series: Stories of Strength: Interviews with First Responders and Survivors.

    In this series, I’ll sit down with professionals from the field and individuals who have endured and overcome significant challenges. Together, we’ll discuss the moments that shaped their journeys, the lessons they’ve learned, and how their experiences can inspire hope and healing in others.

    Through these interviews, my goal is to create a space where we can celebrate resilience in all its forms. By sharing these stories, I hope to offer readers—whether they are first responders, mental health advocates, or anyone facing their own battles—a source of comfort, encouragement, and perspective.

    Finding Your Own Resilience

    Witnessing the resilience of others is a gift, but it is equally important to recognize your own strength. Each time you show up for a call, comfort a patient, or support your peers, you are embodying resilience. Take time to honor that within yourself.

    As we move forward with this series, I invite you to join me on this journey of discovery and growth. Let’s shine a light on the incredible strength within our community and use these stories as stepping stones toward healing and hope.

    Stay tuned for the first interview in the series—it’s a story you won’t want to miss.

    Together, let’s find strength in the resilience around us and within us.

  • Breaking Barriers: Women in the Fire Service

    Breaking Barriers: Women in the Fire Service

    The fire service has long been regarded as a male-dominated field, steeped in tradition and camaraderie. While these aspects make it unique, they also present challenges for women entering the profession. Women comprise only about 8% of firefighters in the United States, according to the National Fire Protection Association (NFPA). Yet, despite the barriers, women bring invaluable strengths to the table—both physical and mental—that enhance the fire service and benefit the communities we serve.

    Overcoming Challenges and Breaking Stereotypes

    Entering a male-dominated field often means working harder to prove your worth. Many women feel the pressure to perform at a higher standard, as they are often scrutinized more harshly than their male counterparts. This can lead to self-doubt, but it also fosters a determination to succeed. Personally, I’ve experienced this dynamic firsthand. When I joined the fire service, I faced criticism and hostility from some officers in one of my departments. These individuals frequently engaged in lewd conversations, scrutinized my work unfairly, and set me up to fail by assigning tasks without proper training or guidance. It was a difficult and toxic environment to navigate.

    However, not every department operates this way. I was fortunate to also serve in other departments where my skills and contributions were valued. These experiences taught me the importance of fostering welcoming environments where teamwork and mutual respect prevail. Ultimately, I chose to leave the toxic department and focus my efforts on places where I was encouraged to grow and thrive as a firefighter.

    The Strengths Women Bring to the Fire Service

    Women often excel in the fire service by leveraging unique strengths that complement the team dynamic. For example, being smaller in size can be an advantage in confined spaces during search-and-rescue operations. Additionally, women tend to excel in communication, empathy, and collaboration, which are essential traits in high-stress, team-oriented environments. The fire service thrives on true teamwork—everyone bringing their strengths to the table to accomplish a shared mission.

    Studies also suggest that diverse teams perform better in high-pressure situations. A 2020 report from McKinsey & Company found that diverse workplaces are 35% more likely to outperform their peers. In the fire service, this translates to better problem-solving, more innovative solutions, and ultimately, improved outcomes for the communities we serve.

    Inspired by Women Who Paved the Way

    My Aunt, a career firefighter/paramedic, was one of my earliest role models. Her dedication, resilience, and professionalism inspired me to pursue a career in the fire service and to be the best version of myself. Watching her navigate the challenges of the job while maintaining her integrity and compassion gave me a roadmap for success.

    Her example also taught me the value of mentorship and support. It is critical for women entering male-dominated fields to seek out allies and role models who can provide guidance, encouragement, and wisdom. The fire service, like any other profession, is only as strong as the people within it. By lifting each other up, we ensure the safety and success of the entire team.

    Moving Forward: Creating a More Inclusive Fire Service

    While progress has been made, there is still work to do to create a more inclusive fire service. Departments must prioritize fostering respectful, welcoming environments where all firefighters—regardless of gender—can thrive. Leadership plays a crucial role in setting the tone and addressing toxic behaviors. When women feel supported, they can contribute to their full potential, enhancing the effectiveness of the entire team.

    For those entering the fire service, my advice is to stay true to yourself, seek out departments and leaders who value your contributions, and never stop advocating for better mental health and workplace culture. The fire service is built on trust, respect, and teamwork—qualities that transcend gender and unite us in our shared mission to serve and protect.

    As women in the fire service, we may face unique challenges, but we also have unique strengths. By breaking barriers and shattering stereotypes, we pave the way for the next generation of women firefighters, creating a stronger, more inclusive fire service for all.

  • National Legislative Efforts for First Responder Mental Health: Why We Must Keep Raising Our Voices

    National Legislative Efforts for First Responder Mental Health: Why We Must Keep Raising Our Voices

    First responders are the backbone of our communities, showing up during our worst moments to protect, heal, and save lives. Yet, the toll of witnessing trauma and carrying the weight of those experiences is often overlooked. Despite the undeniable need, resources for mental health support remain inadequate. Thankfully, there are growing efforts at the national level to address these issues, but it’s up to us to ensure they don’t fall through the cracks.

    In a previous post, I discussed how first responders can engage in policy advocacy to create meaningful change. Now, let’s dive into the current legislative efforts and why your voice is crucial in pushing these initiatives forward.

    Current Legislative Efforts

    1. First Responders Wellness Act

    Introduced in July 2024 by Senators Kirsten Gillibrand (D-NY) and Josh Hawley (R-MO), this bipartisan bill proposes the creation of a grant program to enhance mental health services for first responders. It also includes the establishment of a national mental health hotline specifically for law enforcement officers, firefighters, EMTs, and others on the frontlines.

    Current Status: The bill has been referred to the Committee on the Judiciary, where it awaits further review.

    2. CARE for First Responders Act (H.R.6415)

    Introduced in the House in November 2023, this bill seeks to provide specialized mental health, substance abuse, and crisis counseling services to first responders. The aim is to address the unique challenges these professionals face, including chronic stress and burnout.

    Current Status: Referred to the Subcommittee on Economic Development, Public Buildings, and Emergency Management for further discussion.

    3. Fighting Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Act of 2023

    Reintroduced by Senator Chuck Grassley (R-IA) in early 2023, this legislation aims to establish programs designed to help first responders cope with the long-term effects of trauma, such as PTSD and depression.

    Current Status: Under consideration, with ongoing discussions about how to best implement and fund these programs.

    The Alarming Reality: Suicide Rates Among First Responders

    The mental health challenges faced by first responders are profound, with suicide rates notably higher than those of the general population. A study by the U.S. Fire Administration analyzing data from 2015 to 2017 found that first responders accounted for 1% of all suicides during that period. Within this group, 58% were law enforcement officers, 21% were firefighters, 18% were EMS providers, and 2% were public safety telecommunicators.

    Further research indicates that 37% of fire and EMS professionals have contemplated suicide, a rate nearly ten times higher than that of American adults. A 2018 white paper by the Ruderman Family Foundation revealed that police officers and firefighters are more likely to die by suicide than in the line of duty.

    These statistics underscore the urgent need for comprehensive mental health support tailored to the unique challenges faced by first responders.

    The Need for Continued Advocacy

    Legislative efforts like these are an incredible step forward, but they can’t stop here. Bills like the First Responders Wellness Act and the CARE for First Responders Act are only the beginning. To make real change, we need to ensure these efforts are not only passed but also expanded upon and adequately funded.

    Mental health is not a luxury—it’s a necessity for the longevity and well-being of the people who protect us. Without proper support, first responders face increased risks of burnout, PTSD, depression, substance use, and even suicide.

    What Can We Do?

    As I’ve shared before, first responders have a unique and powerful voice in policy advocacy. Here’s how we can ensure these bills move forward and inspire further action:

    1. Contact Your Representatives

    Share your story and explain why these bills matter. Personal accounts from first responders carry immense weight in demonstrating the need for change.

    2. Raise Awareness

    Use your platform, whether it’s social media, local meetings, or community events, to inform others about these legislative efforts.

    3. Collaborate

    Partner with advocacy organizations focused on first responder mental health. Groups like the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and local firefighter and EMS unions are often at the forefront of these battles.

    4. Stay Engaged

    Track the progress of these bills and hold your representatives accountable. If progress stalls, follow up.

    A Call to Action

    The time for action is now. Legislative momentum can waver without visible public support. It’s up to us to keep the conversation alive, push for better mental health resources, and ensure that the government invests in the well-being of first responders.

    We must continue to demand more—not just for the passage of these bills, but for the expansion and funding of mental health initiatives across the board. When we advocate for ourselves and our peers, we create a safer, healthier future for everyone.

    Let’s raise our voices together and ensure that these critical efforts become law. The well-being of our first responders depends on it.

    If you’re unsure where to start with policy advocacy, check out my previous post on how first responders can get involved. Let’s make our voices heard!

  • Using TIPP to Manage Emotional Distress After Traumatic Calls

    Using TIPP to Manage Emotional Distress After Traumatic Calls

    First responders often face high-stress, emotionally taxing situations that can lead to overwhelming emotions after a traumatic call. TIPP (Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, Progressive relaxation) provides actionable strategies to manage these feelings effectively. These practices have each helped me tremendously after intense or traumatizing calls. Here’s how first responders can use each component:

    T – Temperature: Cool Your System

    Trauma can cause your body to go into fight-or-flight mode, escalating emotional intensity. Using cold temperatures can help calm your nervous system.

    • How to Apply:

    • Splash cold water on your face or hold an ice pack against your cheeks for 30 seconds.

    • Use cold compresses on your neck or wrists.

    • If accessible, step into a cooler environment (e.g., an air-conditioned space).

    • Why it Works:

    Cooling your body activates the mammalian dive reflex, which slows your heart rate and reduces stress.

    I – Intense Exercise: Burn Off Energy

    After a traumatic call, adrenaline and cortisol levels spike, leading to physical restlessness and emotional overwhelm. Intense exercise provides a healthy outlet.

    • How to Apply:

    • Do 30-60 seconds of jumping jacks, push-ups, or sprinting.

    • Engage in vigorous activities like running stairs or shadowboxing.

    • If at your station, consider using available equipment like kettlebells or a treadmill.

    • Why it Works:

    Intense movement burns off excess stress hormones, re-regulating your body and mind.

    P – Paced Breathing: Reclaim Control

    Hyperventilation often accompanies emotional distress. Paced breathing counters this by slowing your breath and calming your body.

    • How to Apply:

    • Inhale deeply through your nose for 4 seconds.

    • Hold your breath for 4 seconds.

    • Exhale slowly through your mouth for 6-8 seconds.

    • Repeat this pattern for 1-2 minutes.

    • Why it Works:

    Deliberate breathing engages the parasympathetic nervous system, helping reduce feelings of panic or overwhelm.

    P – Progressive Muscle Relaxation: Release Tension

    Trauma often causes physical tension. Progressive relaxation helps release that tension and refocus your mind.

    • How to Apply:

    • Start with your toes: tense the muscles tightly for 5-10 seconds, then release.

    • Gradually work upwards through your legs, torso, arms, and face.

    • Pair this exercise with deep, slow breathing for added relaxation.

    • Why it Works:

    This technique reduces physical tension associated with stress and anchors you in the present moment.

    When to Use TIPP

    First responders can use TIPP immediately after a traumatic call, during a quiet moment at the station, or at home when distress surfaces. These techniques are portable, require no special tools, and work quickly to lower emotional intensity.

    By incorporating TIPP into self-care routines, first responders can process trauma effectively, reduce emotional overload, and maintain mental well-being. Remember, seeking additional support from peers or mental health professionals is always encouraged.

  • Why We Keep Showing Up: Exploring the Deep Sense of Purpose and Pride in First Responder Work

    Why We Keep Showing Up: Exploring the Deep Sense of Purpose and Pride in First Responder Work

    Imagine a world without the 911 system. A world where emergencies relied on word-of-mouth or outdated technology, with response times stretching into hours instead of minutes. It’s not some far-off dystopian concept—this was reality less than a century ago.

    In Maine, the 911 system as we know it today only came into existence in the 1970s. Before that, the state relied on what was called the “red phone system.” Red phones, located in specific public locations, were hardwired to contact a trained responder’s home directly. There were no cell phones, no coordinated networks—just landlines and limited accessibility.

    In those days, people were far more likely to die before reaching medical care. Fires destroyed homes more frequently because of delayed response times and limited resources. And yet, first responders stepped up, even in those challenging conditions. They became a lifeline, often volunteering their time to serve their communities because they understood the stakes.

    Flash forward to today: technology has advanced, our equipment has improved, and the 911 system is a highly coordinated network capable of dispatching fire, police, and EMS to nearly any corner of the country. But our system is under immense pressure.

    With a wave of retirements looming and fewer individuals interested in entering the field, the future of emergency response looks uncertain. Those who do step into first responder roles often leave after only a few years, disillusioned by low pay, high stress, and a job that rarely matches the glorified image portrayed in movies or TV shows. Many never fully understand what keeps those of us who stay going.

    So, why do we keep showing up?

    Because Lives Depend on It

    Every call has the potential to save a life. Whether it’s reviving someone in cardiac arrest, pulling a child from a burning building, or simply being a reassuring presence in someone’s darkest hour, the work we do matters. We see firsthand what happens when help doesn’t arrive in time—and that knowledge fuels our drive.

    Because It’s Who We Are

    First responders share a unique bond, rooted in a sense of duty and purpose. We’re not just responding to emergencies; we’re showing up for our communities in their most vulnerable moments. That sense of responsibility becomes a part of who we are.

    Because We Believe in a Greater Good

    Even in a system stretched to its limits, we show up because we know the alternative is unacceptable. The thought of a world where 911 calls go unanswered or delayed for hours is unfathomable. We believe in protecting the system that has become a lifeline for so many.

    Because We’re Proud of Our Legacy

    First response is a tradition. For decades, people have stepped up to serve in this field, often at great personal cost. We carry that torch, honoring the sacrifices of those who came before us.

    Because We’re Not Done Fighting

    Yes, there are challenges—staffing shortages, burnout, and a lack of resources. But for those of us who stay, there’s a drive to be part of the solution. We want to leave this field better than we found it, to advocate for change, and to inspire the next generation of responders to pick up where we leave off.

    The Road Ahead

    The future of emergency response is at a crossroads. Without intervention—better pay, better mental health support, and better recruitment efforts—the system could face collapse. But if we’ve learned anything from history, it’s that first responders have always risen to the challenge.

    To those of you considering this field: It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. You’ll find a sense of purpose unlike anything else. And you’ll join a community of people who show up, day after day, not because it’s easy, but because it’s needed.

    For those of us already in the field, let this be a reminder: what we do matters. We are part of something greater than ourselves.

    And that’s why we keep showing up.

  • The Legacies We Leave: Building a Safer, More Peaceful World

    The Legacies We Leave: Building a Safer, More Peaceful World

    When I think about the legacy I hope to leave, my heart is drawn to the idea of creating a safer, more peaceful world. I’ve always wanted to make a difference, not just in my community, but on a larger scale. It’s something that has been deeply rooted in my heart since I became a mother.

    When my son Henry was younger, he was obsessed with Paw Patrol—a show about pups that go on rescue missions, always there to help keep their community safe. I remember watching him light up as the characters worked together to solve problems and protect others. And in those moments, I realized that I wanted to be my son’s real-life “Paw Patrol” hero. It wasn’t just about being there for him; it was about showing him that there’s strength in service and that anyone, regardless of gender or background, can make a meaningful impact.

    As a female in the male-dominated world of first responders, I hope to inspire my daughter, Alice, to see that there are no limits to what she can accomplish. I want her to grow up knowing that the world is full of possibilities, and that she can break down any barriers she encounters on her own path.

    I’ve always felt a calling to give back to the field that has saved my life countless times. My work as an EMT and firefighter isn’t just about responding to emergencies—it’s about serving others during their darkest moments. Whether I’m helping a patient in crisis or supporting someone in the recovery community, I want my actions to make a difference.

    The tragedy of 9/11 was a pivotal moment for me as a young child, one that introduced my passion for community service and the role of emergency responders. In the aftermath of those attacks, I watched in awe as our nation came together—across all levels, classes, and cultures—in a show of unity and compassion. That moment solidified my belief in the power of community and service.

    Mister Rogers is famously quoted, saying the following, “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

    Before joining the first responder community, I studied policy in college with a focus on global issues. But I soon became disillusioned by the political divisions I witnessed when I worked in Washington, D.C. I wanted to be part of something that united people, that focused on service above all else. I realized that the work I do on the ground, directly helping people, is where real change happens. Each word I say to a patient in crisis could help them heal, process their emotions, or simply hold on for another moment. And every step I take in the recovery community could encourage someone to stay sober, to keep fighting for their own life.

    Starting this blog is another step in my journey. My hope is to create a space for open-mindedness and vulnerability, where we can talk about the challenges we face as healthcare professionals and first responders. I want to inspire others to reach out when they’re struggling, to be brave enough to ask for help, and to build a community that supports one another through our trauma and challenges.

    Our 911 system is under more pressure than ever before. Personnel are stretched thin, burnout is a constant threat, and mental health services for first responders are often underfunded or inadequate. But the more we advocate for better support systems, the stronger our community becomes. By nurturing the newer generation of first responders, we create a safer environment not just for ourselves, but for the families and communities we serve. This is the legacy I want to leave: a world where future generations grow up in a safer, more compassionate environment, and a community where we support one another—every single day.